I’m not really one for resolutions.  When I think of resolutions, they always sound like projects.  And I don’t see why you should wait until January 1 to start a project.  If you’ve resolved to resolve to do something, then you’ve actually already resolved to do it, right? So, do it. I know that’s now how people see it, but that’s how my brain works and so I just don’t really get down with resolutions.

Instead of resolutions, I like to set a theme for each year.  The idea behind a theme is really to stimulate particular types of projects and resolutions.  Or maybe a theme is a spark for a particular type of mental activity or an inspiration point.  However you care to think about it, I choose a theme so that as I go through the year, I consider decisions and projects in the light.

My theme for 2016 was Focus.  When I chose that theme, I was feeling fuzzy around the edges, not quite like myself.  I considered “balance” as my theme, but I wanted something more action-oriented and more cerebral.  So, I chose “focus” because focus is mental effort.

2016 was kind of a rough year. A lot of beloved celebrities died. Here in the US, we had a rather emotional presidential election that surprised pretty much everyone including myself.  And on a personal level, lots of things happened that really had me feeling unbalanced in life.

Work was alright.  At the start of the year, I was six months into a new gig and although every business has warts, the warts on this one were growing fast and looming large.  By the end of the year, I was convinced that I should find my next move. More on that in a minute.

From my ranting post, you all know that the babies project has been rough.  The egg donor search by itself took us more than six months.  We kicked this project off in January of last year and we were told that we would probably be pregnant — conservatively — by August.  Instead, we just now have embryos and we’re waiting on the genetic testing now. It will probably be February before the transfer is scheduled, which means April-ish before we’re “really” pregnant. *sigh*

Husby also had a couple of shake-ups at his work.  A dear friend of mine died right before Christmas.  And all this baby stuff is insanely expensive and stressful!  yadda yadda yadda… 2016 was very ugh.

But 2017 is going to be GREAT.

First of all, I have a new job!  I start on January 3.  In fact, I am headed to NYC tomorrow to spend the majority of my first week on the job with my boss there. I really adore this company’s brand (I’m a marketing/advertising tech guy. “Brand” is something we think about.) is one of my favorites.  The pay and benefits are a HUGE step up.  In fact, the medical will help us a bit with the babies project!  I also have a couple of old friends who already work there, so I won’t be a total stranger.  But from a professional perspective, I am really excited about the challenge.  This company has a very different product portfolio focus from the company I left.  I think it makes them uniquely competitive in interesting ways and it will be really fun to sell their product.

Secondly, and certainly not of lesser importance, BABIES.  No, seriously. Unless things go VERY, VERY wrong for us, we are pretty much assured to be pregnant this year with what will be our first child!  MAAAAYBE s/he won’t be here yet, but at the very worst, we will simply be pregnant at this time next year.  Odds are, though, that we will have our little one at this point.  And that is terrifyingly exciting.

The new job is a huge change and will impose some pretty radical changes in my schedule.  The personal work I did in 2016, though, prepared me for many of the new efforts that I will be taking on here in 2017.  In fact, I think I’m almost ideally situated for some significant successes this year. And I am very excited about it!

So, for 2017, I’ve chosen the theme of DRIVE.

Where “Focus” was about finding some inner balance and rediscovering my will to achieve, “Drive” is more about external action.

In choosing “Drive” as my theme, I wanted something very action-oriented, a deliberate contrast to the cerebral orientation of “Focus.” I also think I suffer from a bit of analysis paralysis in addition to some decision fatigue in my daily life.  With “Drive” I hope to do a bit more jumping in head-first.  Rather than trying to find the will to make decisions, lower the cost of decision-making by saying “yes” to more things.

And I want to write more regularly.  I shut down my last blog because I felt like I had said everything I wanted to say.  But I think that was mostly because there was no real focus to that blog.  My topic was “anything that springs to mind.”  This blog is focus primarily on our family-building process and I intend to use that as a point of focus for writing this year.  That’s important because I fully expect we will have a baby this year.


So, I am very excited about 2017.  In pretty much every aspect of life, I think things are going to be really, REALLY good.   You guys.  SO. GOOD.  Come with me. Let’s slay.

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